And to put a personal spin on it, back in the day when I was self medicating with copious amounts of alcohol and drugs, my boyfriend at the time dumped me because he couldn't handle the chaos that came with it. It was horrible and painful but I don't blame him for drawing a line in the sand. It was one of the many reasons I decided to stop drinking and start taking care of myself. A year into my sobriety, we got back together. We now have been married for eight years. Him dumping my *** was probably one of the most loving things that he could have done for me.