i was just at a training yesterday regarding transgender issues and they had the gingerbread person with the spectrums and asexual was on it and i wondered if i was asexual.....i havent had sex in forever and can identify with what you are saying about comfort level and lack of understanding when others talk about sex. i just got on a dating website and seriously thinking of taking it down after two weeks cause of all the sexual implications and that really isnt what i am interested in in a relationship. so i wouldnt blame it on being at "odds with your gender". it happens in other types of relationships as well.