friendships are hard. keeping them can be hard work. people are not going to give what you expect and the old adage of treat as you want to be treated doesnt always apply. you just cant control how people are going to respond to you. you can only control your side of things. and not get upset when they dont reply in kind. knowing it takes her 4-8 hours to reply, if you keep her as a friend, then you text her KNOWING that it is going to take up to 8 hours to reply and you dont expect or get disappointed when she doesnt. it is that simple. that is the nature of your friendship. she is not going to meet your needs the way you want her to. my best friend ever right now has me disappointed cause we were talking about something i felt was really important to me and we got disconnected. i expected her to call me when she got home so we could finish. she didnt. i texted her. i got a text hours later apologizing saying she had got stoned and had a couple beers. i expressed how unimportant this made me feel to her. she said not to make her feel that way right now so i said back that i would make her feel like crap again later. i havent heard from her all weekend to finish our conversation. this hurts me, but i know she isnt trying to sit around thinking of ways to hurt me. she just doesnt do the phone thing. she will totally listen to me when we see each other on monday and we will have a great time.