The biggest motivation in my life has always been whoever I am interested in. I have done some absolutely ridiculous things- I drove from Arkansas to upstate New York to see someone I hadn't seen in 13 years or so, because I was so certain this was it. I finally have the 'one'. But, no. I had fun, and had my heart broken and finally saw a little reality. And, btw- I didn't have a license plate on my car. Definitely able to hyperfocus on relationships.

Luckily for me, it worked to my advantage with my current, and forever, partner. I did stuff because it was what he was doing. I started being more health conscious because he was and just so many things. The difference between this one and every other one is that my man really does want what's best for me- really. And I feel the same. We are very considerate of each other and always have been.

We've been together 8 years and I don't know that we'll ever get married. Why ruin such a good thing? Part of me does want to get married- but that's for another thread