I have a hard time getting over the acts of her having sexual relations with men for money. This is a woman who means the world to me. And, it bugs me to think that other men viewed her as just an object for sexual pleasure. Part of me is angry that she allowed herself to be put in such a situation and that she wasn't able to respect herself more. But, the other part of me understands or at least tries to that it wasn't her doing completely. It is her ex to blame. I guess in a way it is self-centered of me to be bothered by those things. But, this is exactly what I'm trying to get over. I'm having a hard time keeping those images out of my head. And, by those images I mean viewing her as a "slut". Because, I know she is not that at all. She's very intelligent, creative, good hearted, hard working, and extremely loyal and loving. I respect her. Which is why when those thoughts cross my mind. It's hard for me to bear at times. These events happened roughly a month or two before me and her began talking and dating.
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