We met again last night.
I was a little frustrated with myself for sharing unsolicited advice. It has been a habit of mine, one I'd like to nip in the bud.

I find I want them to like me, and I sometimes feel like I'm blowing it.
Even that feeling of wanting them to like me is a absurd, on close consideration. I don't know them well enough to judge whether or not they would be a good influence on me, or if spending time with them would be beneficial to me. They are all older than I am. D may be the closest in age, but I'll bet he is in his late 50's. So, probably 10 years older.

3 of them are having serious relationship issues with their wives. I would like to find ways for our (my wife and I) relationship to flourish. They, on the other hand, appear to have given up.