You think I haven't thought about this? I swear she sometimes sets it up so that maybe he will find out. She has said "I can't leave him - he has to leave me". (...and I've been there before!)
...unfortunately because we are both well known, respected and active in our community - it would be a fiasco! He is kind-of a "has-been" in the community, but a lot of people still know him. He has a tarnished reputation - but her being with him is helping buff it up a bit (that and her teacher's pension means he's not letting go easily)!