Has a negative thought or experience to go with it. Trying just makes it worse. Indeed there are many unresolved issues especially with my daughter. There are some very strong negatives involving my husband. We are trying hard but my mind keeps stopping me. I think it must be discouragement. Things are not the way I would want them to be. I would want a friendly easy going relationship with my daughter but she just keeps on fussing if I get near her. She has a lot of anger and it isn't all me. I think I am just a safer target because she knows I will not be unkind or yell at her. I don't cut her off either. I try to be reasonably loyal but I am protective enough that I am careful about my contacts with her. Sad and lonely situation! My husband tries but can be hurtful. Now, it is me hurting me through negative , painful thinking. I have moments of feeling better when I am deeply creatively involved.