Thank you for the replies. Webgoji we rarely go to bed together. He fears rejection so no longer tries to cuddle or kiss me and feels that going to bed at the same time will make him frustrated. I feel that this just may be the end for us, we are just like room mates. I do try to encourage watching a movie and I do cook. I really don't know if 'we' can be saved. We are hiding our emotions at for the sake of the kids but when we get some time alone it's spent discussing what's happening.