I agree with you completely. I don't think she knows what kind of person she is messing with though I tried to teach her about bpd. I gave her something to read about a year ago but like most people, she seemed to focus on the suicide and self injury aspects totally missing the relationship issues.

She loves the attention and I think the ladder thing was because she wasn't getting enough attention from me. She told me that she bought some new tops last week and said that they were not low cut when I asked. Yet she still continues to wear her older more showy ones. This is why I am trying to keep it together because my T said that I'm going to get hurt if I'm not careful. She drives me wild though.