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Originally Posted by Claire2015
Thank you so much for replying and sharing that, so if you hyperfocus on a relationship do you find that the world around you disappears in a way (sorry i am pretty bad with wording things correctly) does it feel like you lose touch with everything around you?
You're so lucky i wish i had ADHD cause i get bored of anyone if i spend to long with them even if they're someone i cherish dearly. You literally go to the ends of the earth which is amazing it shows how passionate you are about your relationships. As you say though you put your heart on your sleeve a bit, just like my cousin who has ADHD.
Do you ever get bored of a person? Do you have a day which is like hitting a brick wall and becoming bored or having your hyperfocus switch off? If so what is that like and can that apply to all social situations not just relationships but friendships, work partners/colleages etc.
Never say never you never know you might be surprised one day, your partner might be saying no to marriage so you're oblivious to him planning to marry you.
Thank you again 
Claire |
It's not that the world disappears or that I lose touch with the world around me. It's more like no one can stop me from my goal. I can't wait to get to the point in my day when I can text or call or meet up with the object of my affection. This incredible drive has led me to make very poor decisions in the past. It's like everything has to be right now. There is no consideration that it could be ok to wait. There is no thought about the consequences until it's too late. sometimes it's fine, sometimes it's not.
I have definitely gotten bored with people. Or I don't understand why they can't see how hard I am trying while they're doing nothing. Or I get tired of taking care of them or any number of reasons. I was married at 21 and divorced at 32. I stayed faithful to my husband the whole time. but I did have lots of friendships that were intense. but I would rarely ever have sacrificed my job, or my apartment, or lots of things- for just a friend.
Now, I can honestly say I wouldn't behave that way in the future if I were ever single again.
I have learned quite a few things over the last few years. Trust being the number one thing. Complete trust and faith in my partner and learning to trust myself and BELIEVING I am worth so much- I shouldn't just give it away.
Having a diagnosis and being able to use medication that actually helps is huge for me. Having a scientific reason instead of a character defect is helpful for my soul.
I am really glad you are getting something out of this exchange- I know I am.
What stands out as something you do or don't do that shows the difference between ADHD and non-ADHD? I hope that makes sense