Thanks for the reply. We have talked about her needs, it just seems to go no where. She's torn.. I'm torn. Its like, do I say "just do it already!" and pretend that I'm not c essentially giving her permission to cheat on me. Which in the back of my mind, is really what it is. Lets just say, she does do it.. Does it ever end? She's struggled with this in previous relationships, but back then, she really didn't care for them. Toys, at this point, won't do much. She's already told me she's found someone that she can act out her need on. I just don't know what to do. Support her and go against what I believe in? We've been together for 8 years and I'm and this hasn't become a problem before, so I'm not sure how so should react.