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Originally Posted by Only_Human1983
I'm 32 and last year I came out of a 4 year on and off relationship. My ex was a narcissist and has a habit of coming back into my life every time I try and get myself back on my feet. I do still love him...at least it feels like I do, but maybe it's more that I miss having SOMEONE. All my friends are getting married and I'm slowly losing hope that my day will come. My dream was always to have a family of my own and I can feel it slipping further and further away from me. I've almost come to terms with the fact that it just won't happen for me, but it's hard to accept. I know having someone doesn't make you instantly happy and fix everything, but I'm so scared of ending up a lonely old woman that's never married or had children. I feel like there must be something very wrong with me and that I'm damaged. I get so lonely and I miss having someone to cuddle up to and be there. My ex even said in so many words that I wouldn't make a great mum as I have OCD and I couldn't be like that with children. Maybe he was right and I can never have what I always dreamed of.
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What you believe will become your reality. If you believe you wont find someone than you wont. You are allowing this man to negatively impact your outlook on your own life. Very classic of a narcissist. It is easier said as the third party out I know. But you need to look inside of you. Why do you feel others can live your dream but you cannot? Get out of your own way. Focus on what you want in a person and don't settle for less. I think going back and forth with someone who cannot give you want you want is the very thing making you disbelieve in yourself.