I've been seeing a guy 14 years younger than me. He says he is loves me and every time we break up he can't stay away from me? Yet, he has no drive for me what so ever. When we first met we would have sex several times a day. He did say in the beginning he worried he had low testosterone. I remember thinking that was odd because we never had an issue? He said he stopped wanting sex with his ex before me and that he preferred to jerk of instead to porn and he would sneak off and get oral sex from other girls.

Now it seems we have sex once a month and that is only because I complain about it. He tells me he has no drive and he thinks it is because he smokes a lot of weed. But in an argument he said "I can't believe you don't get bored having sex with the same person all of the time?" I get bored." But he never gets bored of jerking off? He wants to stay together, but I feel he will end up cheating if he is so bored of one person. Especially because before I met him he had a lot of females. I also don't know if I can live committed to once a month. I had never gone less than five days without sex before I met him.

I feel rejected and it makes my feelings of love and connection break down. The downfall is we have a great friendship too, but I am starting to feel like a "just one of the boys." I am not unattractive and in good shape, I have a lot of men that are attracted to me. I cannot understand why he doesn't want me? Is he just a player? A player wannabe? It's doomed right?