As someone who attempted Sui at that age, I can relate to the seemingly unattached manner in which she is behaving. For me, it really wasn't a big deal, it was simply a logical way to escape the pain I was feeling. I truly never thought of how it would affect anyone else. It certainly was not for attention and I felt embarrassed afterward.

Fortunately for her, she has parents who care enough to look for answers. Something I did not have after my 2 failed attempts. I went many more years before I found some help and still to this day battle severe depression. In my case I turned to drugs and alcohol to ease the pain and undiagnosed depression.

I encourage you to stay open-minded and teachable on this issue. The commenters above have great insight into what may be happening with your daughter. Perhaps it's a passing thing but in my case I needed professional help then and need it even more now. I know it's hard to imagine why a seemingly normal kid without obvious problems would want to die but I can assure you that even someone so young can live with unbearable emotional pain.

Sending you a hug for being such a caring parent...best wishes for your family's recovery.