Hi Mary Alice -- I don't know about the security check. I do know that if you have signed a statement swearing that all info on the application is true, you can be fired if an untrue statement comes to light later. I've seen it happen in newspaper for lying about having a college degree. In that case, it's not the matter of the degree that is at issue, but the lie.

I wish you had someone to talk with. Do you feel together enough to phone a different security company, pretend that you're very interested in the work and ask how the past would affect the application. Also, there is a big difference between being charged and being convicted of a felony. If you were cleared of the charges, it would seem the police made a mistake.

The good thing about bringing this matter to light yourself is that you have a chance to explain how you've changed since then, and how it all happened. If employer discovers it, you're not only a felon but a liar.

I also would like to raise this point -- if you are hired by this company, and rise to supervisor, and the job is a godsend, how will you feel over time knowing there's a skeleton in the closet that could destroy your world if it ever comes popping out?

I wish you the best with this. It sounds like you have overcome tremendous challenges to build a better life for you and your son. I admire and respect that. And I will keep you in my prayers, such as they are.