Maybe it's just me but if I were dependent on an untrusted person for basic stuff it would make me feel more vulnerable. I would figure out quick how not to need him. As for the vehicle thing? Here there are papers for people with disabilities listing equipment etc for sale or free. There are lots of already installed lifts in vans, mini vans too. Just a thought. Hmm, my friend has a Van for sale but you'd have to travel a bit to come and get it.