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Originally Posted by Chummy
Just because you're attracted to your T doesn't mean your gay. You say you could be attracted to females, have you ever been attracted to a female before? You have been attracted to guys. It's doesn't neccesarily mean that you're gay.
I have read some things on erotic transference and having erotic feelings for your T doesn't always mean that you want to have sex or something with them. I can't remember where I've read it. But erotic attraction to a T can often be that you miss something else, you missed something in you're childhood or something. Not always, but often. At least that what I've read on erotic transference. ...
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I've read (also don't recall where) that sometimes we feel what we think is erotic transference, but really it's maternal (or paternal) transference. But those feelings are rooted in childhood stuff and can be more intense, so we experience it as sexual attraction, almost as our brain's way of protecting ourselves from that other, more intense stuff (though for you, it could be that the erotic transference is more difficult to deal with than maternal). With my marriage counselor, I thought initially that it was mostly erotic, but from talking to him about it (individually) a couple times, I came to realize that it was more a desire for comfort, security, and closeness, which could be a paternal thing. Like I might think "I want to make love to him," but it might not so much be about the physical/sexual aspect as about feeling an intense connection with someone. So it could be the same for you with your T.