I’d like some opinions on a matter in a new relationship. I’ll try to keep it short.
This guy I just started dating does not drink alcohol, not even socially. Some members of his family are alcoholics and from a very young age he decided that wasn’t something he’d ever do. So to this day he’s never drank.
I drink socially, maybe one or two beers once a month. I hadn’t until lately drank at all because I had kids. They are grown (the youngest being 17 now) so an occasional drink I feel is ok.
He stated during a conversation last week that he wouldn’t kiss me if I drank because he doesn’t want to taste or smell the alcohol. It’s just something he doesn’t care for.
I told him I wasn’t going to promise that I wouldn’t drink, and I guess he won’t be kissing me that night if I decide to.
At first it didn’t sit well with me (made me feel like he was a little controlling-dictating what I could or couldn’t do), but then I tried to put myself in his shoes. I can’t stand the smell or taste of cigarettes. Although I don’t consider alcohol and cigarette one in the same, I wouldn’t date someone that smoked and wouldn’t kiss someone either that smoked. The smell and taste make me sick to my stomach.
Just curious as to other’s opinions on this matter.
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