It depends on his past experiences. I had a live-in relationship with alcoholic, we've been together for almost 9 years. I eventually left because he kept relapsing and my mental health went down. I was beyond stressed

I'll NOT be with anyone who drinks on any kind of regular basis beyond perhaps at a wedding or a party ( las time i drank a glass of Wine was Christmas party and next time it will be a wedding I have to go in November, that kind of drinking I can handle).

I'll not kiss or have sex with a man if he smells like alcohol. It's very triggering for me. Too much pain

My new BF drinks as much as me which is nearly never. Two three times a year a glass of wine at a party. That I can handle. We've been together for 4 months and neither one of us touched alcohol. Not once. That works for me.

Perhaps your BF had bad experience like mine

Smoking isn't a deal breaker for me. I can handle a smoker. Drinker? Nope.

It also depends how often do you drink that it becomes a problem?
If like you said it is once a month then I don't see how it is a problem? You don't need to be kissing one evening a month. Not a big deal

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