hi tandwstone
are you going to counseling to work on your issues? it sounds like this may be a toxic relationship if it reached the point you had to give up your children. if he is not willing to work with you toward healing, are you able to face the idea of moving forward toward a healthy life alone? things will not change if you do not take the steps to change it. welcome to psych central. you will find we have several forums where you can post about your concerns and receive feedback from other members. you will get a lot of support here. again, welcome