I think I would describe my narcissistic "friend" as a subtle narcissist. On the surface she seems to be all about helping people. She does "spiritual healing" and all that. Her narcissim doesn't show much with casual acquaintences, but if one of her close circle DARES to question her ideas, she takes it as an attack and cuts them out of her life. She considers herself a guru and considers all her "friends" to be her followers. But you'd have to be pretty close to her to see it. Unless you're prepared to follow her, she won't let you in. I can only see it by the damage she's done to other people, not by her interactions with me personally, since I'm not one of her followers.