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Originally Posted by eskielover
Just accept yourself the way you are & stop trying to put the sexual labels that this current society wants to place on everyone....you will be a LOT HAPPIER.
When I grew up everyone was what they were. I was a only child female who grew up in a neighborhood of all guys.....my interests growing up were all guy stuff & I had no interest in the girl dolls or dressing up or even make-up.....it didn't make me any less of a female. I even ended up in what was mostly a male career of computer engineering. When I first started working there I was the only female in the group. I played racquetball with the guys & gave them a good game if I didn't beat them on the court. Always loved being competitive with guys because they were more of a challenge to compete with than females who always seemed to wimp out quickly.
I am who I am with the interests I have. I now have women friends who are very active in the horse community that I'm now involved in & am finding that in the areas I'm in now that there are more women even my age that are also involved though I also repair my own truck when I can & take care of my farm as much as possible by myself. I was married for 33 years but H was totally dysfunctional & I finally left when I could finally get out.....not sure I really ever want to get married again after that.......satisfied being alone for the time being.....It would have driven me crazy to have to put a label on who & what I have been through my life.......instead of just accepting me as I am.....too much pressure is being put on people now to label every little detail of their sexual selves & I personally think it's sad.
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Pardon, just because you don't want to, or can't label your experiences doesn't mean others shouldn't. When it comes to gender identity, these words aren't just labels. They're ways for us to explore and understand who we are as people and what gender means to us. For example, I was miserable being a called, referred to, or seen as a girl. It made me miserable. So I began exploring my gender and what that meant to me. And these "labels" helped put words to what I was feeling. It's an identity, like a name or a culture, it's part of who you are as a person.
Also these labels aren't sexual. Sexuality and gender are two different things (although some of us may discuss both at the same time). I feel like you mean well, but please, as a cisgender person you need to understand that this forum is about support for those of us who may not have it outside this space. You may want. To read more into trans and no binary experiences before posting. Like I said, I don't think you're trying to be insensitive or mean, but I feel like you may be coming from a place of misunderstanding.