I do think there is a double standard, perhaps for a reason. I have a physical illness, and am in the same boat. I know that there are many good marriages where the woman has a disability, but there seems to be fewer with a disabled man. This doesn't mean we can't try, and I think we should, but in my judgement I do not believe we can expect to be treated equally. I think most men would be willing to protect and care for their wife. Personally, I would find a lot of satisfaction and meaning in that. It seems that many women resent a husand who needs the same support, even if its not his fault, and he truly does his best.