So true! I call that "reprocessing". I can go over something in my mind and deal with the emotions that come with it and achieve a state of piece regarding it. I put it out of my mind and continue my life, then five years later, boom! it's back and needing to be considered again.

On another subject, I have always thought you were male, so I was confused by the skirt. Then I reminded myself that I only have to look around at the people in the eccentric small town where I live to know that there isn't necessarily any relationship between a person's gender and what items of clothing he/she wears.

I see the following men in skirts where I live: people who are overly invested in their Scottish heritage and wear kilts. Performance artists. Boys who like attention. The Men-in-Skirts religious group. And then there was that random guy I saw that time wearing a sort of solid color kilt with cargo pockets.