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Originally Posted by healingme4me
There's something to be said for the expression, 'don't put all your eggs in one basket.'
I don't find myself giving a play by play of my day to any one person in particular. My first serious relationship, one of the key points of it not working, was the over analysis of 'the relationship.' Haven't encountered that again, in my life. My relationship with my exhusband was a roller coaster because of a combination of factors contributing to unforeseeable outbursts on his part among other aspects. But those are the only real roller coasters that I've experienced. Not to say that on larger timelines other relationships haven't had tense moments, but overall not the constant ups and downs.
Yes, it's good to not need to emmesh oneself. Not analyzing'the relationship' is a breath of fresh air, as I've discovered since that first one.
But my foul flag went up on your bf turning to a female coworker after an argument. He must have factors of his own to work on?
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I agree! Thank you- that is very good advice. I think one of the reasons im overly nervous, and he too is that he never lived w/ a girl ever before me.. yet I have been married and with one man for 14 years total (dated 7 md 7 yrs- very toxic RL..) so i am learning this whole thing! I want to do better this time around. We both see a future together- long term.
Re: him talking to female co-worker, my flag went up yes, but it did a few other times b/c he has a girls circle he hangs at work. He told me that initially when we met, his bestie was a girl (from another country) and i eventually met her when we traveled. He is just different then most guys i know- but he is not in the least the lying or disloyal type (ie: he came home to tell me about their chat, to which set me off screaming in a jealous fit....later making me feel like a fool :/ ) ~~
He said that basically she had mentioned 'bi-polar' over lunch, so he pulled her aside, and ended up venting... and she is married, i met her briefly before but certainly dont feel threatened. I am just jealous kind of person :/
Anyhow, thank you i will heed the advice, and grow stronger on my own, and be more confident in my team, including him less and others a bit more
I know for sure he did not fall in love w/ me b/c of drama... he did so b/c back then i was 'cool' and chill kind of low drama girl- this all built up once we met and we are very differnt now. I think however, it is not too late to mend things- it just takes more will power on my part.