I understand the "hate" thing. It is temporary, but real. She needs her own apartment payed for by her and her husband, and it is time for her to grow up! Period!! Also, time for your husband to think about you, and that the daughter is now married, and it is the husband's responsibility to see that she has housing, clothing, etc. Why can't the daughter work in a grocery as a cashier, or at a desk making appointments somewhere. Sounds like she just wants someone else to take over the helm. Does your husband want to change diapers when she decides to leave? Been there, done that, and your husband needs to wake up now, and fast!