You are brave, you are special, you are worthy and deserving of respect and courtesy and unqualified acceptance.

Regrettably this man provides affection as a bargaining chip, some service with strings.

Either he knowingly and wilfully ignores you to punish you for your problems and does this as a means of control and domination. Or, he is so oblivious to his own behaviour and its effect and impact on you.

In either case; the relationship is being dragged down by him and his failure to treat you as a peer and equal.