Its not up to him to fix you, life just doesn't work that way.


Abusers don't fix their victims in order for the victim to heal...


Criminals don't revisit the scenes of their crimes to help their victims overcome the trauma they inflicted.


Rapists don't support the victims they violated and traumatized to help them heal and move forward...



Do you see the point I'm trying to make?


The world simply does not work the way you are expecting it to and no amount of willing it to be so will make it so.


Wanting him to fix you or even attempt to fix you because he damaged you is just not logical or realistic.


All YOU are doing is perpetuating your own misery and pain.


All YOU are doing is allowing this to continue,while blaming him for your misery.


Yes he has wronged and hurt you, yes in an ideal world he would be a good man, be accountable for his actions and make up for that.

But he's not.


In reality, YOU are the accountable one here, YOU are accountable for your life and your happiness.


It just does not make any kind of sense to stay with someone who makes you miserable and then in the same breath blame them for doing so.


YOU ARE GIVING HIM PERMISSION TO TREAT YOU THIS WAY.


Take some responsibility and admit (to yourself) that YOU have been contributing to your own pain and misery, maybe then you will take the steps toward accountability and be responsible for your own happiness..


You have 2 options the way I see it; 1) Stay and accept your misery, 2) Leave and make your own happiness.


Neither decision is based on him, it's comes down to you, and only you.