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crosstobear · Aug 30, 2015, 03:33 AM

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Originally Posted by Komfortable

It was weird.

I went over to her house (20 minutes, all highway) and she said she wanted to paint her room. That's cool, I'm the handy type and I love doing that stuff, so I was happy about it. Worked on it till 3:30 this morning (happens to be my 30th birthday today) and we got really tired. I didn't expect to stay the night when she invited me over, but I also didn't expect to spend 5 hours working on her room, and as late as it was, I thought she wouldn't make me drive home. Well guys...

She did.

After I cleaned up some of the painting stuff, she brought me my keys and wallet and said "I hate for you to have to drive home, but..."

Sweet. Happy birthday to me.

The best present she could have gotten me would be waking up next to her today. I mean, I've stayed there before, what gives?

I think this was a test or something. To see how much I will push away after being treated poorly. Well I've got new for you, toots; I've got a fairly high tolerance for your crap and I'm going to act like nothing even happened. NOTHING. I'm fairly certain she won't want to hang out today, her Fibromyalgia will be giving her fits today after all that painting, that's just life.

Am I a sucker? Probably

Am I a fool? Maybe

Am I still into this girl? 100%, God knows why

Oh come on, man...

Please don't be offended I said this. Yes you're a sucker and a hopeless romantic. "She has my heart, I just want her to let me in..." or something you said earlier, right? You're a little too old at 30 to say things like that. She knows a sucker when she sees one and she just used you. And that's all it's going to be going forward. Just crumbs of hope here and there in exchange for "hey can you do X, Y, Z for me?". She's a savvy girl with some problems in the conscience department. And you're a masochist. Try to figure why you are into women like this, and please stop being a sap, for your own dignity and manhood.

A test? Stop trying to find a silver lining in a hopeless situation. This tendency to accept crumbs and be optimistic and not realistic is what these types of people count on when they take advantage of others. It's probably not so good to be an open book and spill out your emotions for a girl so early on, and if she's emotionally cold, take the hint. Dating is a dance of reciprocity, and if you're too available, down you go in the respect department. She knows how to play you and probably isn't as invested as you are in her.