Hey folks,
I need some advice.
I am very confused and feel helpless because of some issues in my relationship with my boyfriend. We have been together for more than a year now, and sometimes everything is going just fine, I calm down, start to feel at ease and trust him - and then some problem comes up, or something needs to be discussed, and all of a sudden he distances himself from me, becomes insecure and very rude and then doesn't want to see me because he says he is scared that we might fight again. He avoids telling me things and waits until I find out from others, or worse, facebook. He texts me a lot and this makes me very nervous, because his texts confuse me and make me mad and everything just gets worse. I don't get him. Of course I can understand that talking is hard, apparently especially for men (even though I don't want to let this count as an excuse for treating me that way). I have told him and showed him that I love him and that he can trust me, but he keeps hurting me and then running away from it. By now I have developed a temper whenever I get in a conflict with him and he starts acting unfair and scream at him. This hurts me as well and I don't want to be the girlfriend who screams and throws stuff, but I feel just so helpless and have lost my trust. My heart hurts physically, it is a real pain in my chest and I feel like he just avoids me and keeps me out of his life whenever he wants to. He justifies himself a lot, but I don't want to hear excuses. I want to be with him, and to be closer to him and not get thrown out of the comfort zone whenever I start to let go.
Any advice on this from the community would be so helpful. Thanks + hugs from a very confused little owl