I have Aspbergers and Bipolar, so finding someone who will understand me was/is hard. I really hate how almost everything bothers me, it actually makes me feel guilty to be who I am(which obviously doesn't help). My ex husband was not sensitive at all. I had the most and worst meltdowns and rapid cycles, really low depressive episodes in my life when I was married to him--for 10 years! I felt completely broken when we were done. He was not like you at all though. He refused to understand or even accept that anyone has mental illness/disorders. He always said that it's "all in your head" and I was overly dramatic.

For you to actually educate yourself and try to make it work means a lot. You are a very good person. Don't blame yourself, she isn't. Any relationship takes work. Perhaps it could work out at a later time.

I know what helps me now with my bf is to be incredibly open and honest about what bothers me. I can tell when most meltdowns or episodes will occur, so I try to warn him. He knows not to take it personally and to just ride it out. I am incredibly grateful for that. Even if you do not get back with her, you helped her a lot for the time being.