Hi Calpoe1

Good fences make good neighbours, so even in a small town, nobody has the right to know everybody else's problems. But small town fever also means if one person disapproves, they all do. Seems small town hold themselves to a standard of morality higher than what they see in the cities around them. (I live in a small town)

You describe yourself as bisexual and I think you are correct in that. There is also no law preventing you from waxing or shaving. Infact professional cyclists are naked from the neck down, especially the groin area is exposed to a lot of friction that can cause ingrown hairs.

Perhaps cross dressing is your brain's way of rebelling against the hetrosexual stance you've taken publically. So get yourself everything you need, book into a hotel in a city and cross dress to your hearts delight for a weekend.

Tell people you're bi. It's not something you have to get over, it's something they have to get over. At the same time make it clear that whether you sleep with a woman or a man, your morals and your ethics don't change. Identity Schmentity - In Australia they now have three genders, M, F, X.

Last thing, the self blame. No, no. It is logical that in the absence of a reasonable explanation of rejection, the rejected will turn on themselves and find something at fault within themselves. There is nothing wrong with you just how you are. Hugs. Colleen.