u might have to define what you mean by jumping through hoops? Basically, having to trust people as a friend especially a close friend is what I don't need ....It just doesn't serve me well never have. This is as close as people get on sites like this. Now, especially since I've had to talk about what has caused this in me. I was needed and had without really knowing what was involved. That put an anchor in my trust meter. So, I live my life to the best of my ability. I'm just talking about friendships. I may take a little different approach with relationships. I'm single right now but dating I have my trust hampered as well given what I've gone through. I'm cordial but that is about as far as it gets. If I keep you at arms length it is because your not really to get past my test and you ain't talking right. It is the nature of the beast for me.