I do see relationships positively! Know many people who are doing well. I am in a very good relationship right now myself . I wouldn't be if I didn't look at it positively. Its not what I am saying.

I am saying there is no point to worry what others have as very many have bad relationships ( just read on this board let alone look in real life) yet you don't know that by just looking and envying

I was telling you what my t says. my t says when you look at couple and think oh they are happily married you don't really know if that's the case. T says it's more commendable to leave unacceptable relationships than have low standards and stick around so you can say you are married.

So there is no point to envy others. I was trying to help you not to worry what others have because You don't really know what's happening behind close doors. You might be better off.

When I said "victims" I didn't mean "abusers and victims" I mean when you ( in general not "you") envy others, you act as a victim. And that's unproductive.

Also not every unsuccessful relationship is between abusers and victims. Sometimes things just don't work out.

I know if things stop working I'd leave. I enjoy relationships but there is nothing wrong in being single either ( you can do whatever the heck you want lol). I live alone right now and I thought I would never like it, I was afraid to get sad living alone but I LOVE it. At least for the time being



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