The problem starts with unequal Identifier comparisons. Nephew and Niece = cousins or son and daughter = siblings.

Cousins are two strangers relating through stranger long distance familiar connections. I hated multi-family "holidays." Multiple siblings were expecting multiple children to adhere to child's personal-parent house rules while visiting Grandma's house.

What you see as bullying daughter at your house is a little boy looking up to an uncle and trying to be like his uncle while uncle is acting as a Daddy.

He is not trying to bully her. He is trying to protect her same as her Daddy. I wonder if may be a little boys Daddy yells at little boys Mommy or so he's heard or been told witnessing a "husband-wife spousal" disagreement.

Our Dad stated "grandparents" house rule. Holidays children could eat and drink whatever children wanted to stop one parental set, threatening spanking a child over doing something other children "cousins" parents and grandparents let children do.

Protecting your daughter is harming girl. Unless Daddy is attached 24/7, Daddy cannot ALWAYS protect daughter in non-daughter situations.

Sit on ground so all our physically "grounded" a non-threatening physical position. Questions. "When you yelled...what were you meaning to say or do? You can find problem then come up with solution or house rules differing.

Instead of "fixing" problem, your daughter learns opening communications resolving problems between two bigger "boys." A huge valuable lesson so when little girl turns into a bigger girl, bigger girl remembers hearing man to man communication resolving techniques and can come to "daddy" saying. "I need help speaking with a bully boy so bully boy can understand I don't want anything to do with him."

Then Big father figure and girl side by side sitting as big father figure speaks with boy and boy starts seeing and hearing big father figure saying "stay away from my daughter" any time he sees big girl near and turns away avoiding girl's father so big girl stays safe.




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