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Originally Posted by stopdog
Yes, but the therapists, in what they have said and again - in their books - say that is what they are trying to subvert -client defenses and what they do to clients to get rid of the defenses. The writings indicate they do it to the client at the unconscious level - so the client cannot properly defend.
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It's true that that is usually the purpose. That is because therapy is normally about change, but most people are resistant to change because whatever behavior or trait they mean to change has served them well at some point, or else they wouldn't have developed it. But it's exactly because of that, that the therapists I've met and consider good at this respect the client's defenses and work at the client's pace.
I have, however, also met therapists who believe resistance on the part of clients is a bad thing and they try to destroy it. But at least in my experience, those therapists don't seem to create a bond which promotes a change in attachment style. At least that is my experience with those therapists. Granted, it is limited experience because I usually stay away from these types of therapists ...