I did not go to therapy to change my attachment style. However, my therapist accurately (in retrospect) identified attachment problems. She was pretty clear early on that she thought it was important that I become attached to her. I told her she was nuts. And as we did therapy week in and week out, her genuine interest and kindness affected me. When I wasn't looking, it happened. When she saw evidence of it, she pointed it out.

One thing I can say about my therapist is that she does not try to make it mysterious. There isn't anything I can't ask her. She will do her best to give me and honest answer. So although I didn't go looking for attachment (which I thought sounded yuck), it happened. And I'm glad. It helped me. I don't feel like she did anything at me without my consent. I was there for her help. I came to trust her. She did not withhold from me any information I wanted to know about the process. So even though I did not ask for or invite 'attachment,' I put myself into treatment with her and considered it part of that. But believe me, if anything happens that I am not okay with, I have no problem speaking up.