That is a very insightful answer as I am in a similar position. My daughter has been kind but periodically just reams me out over nothing. It has been a very challenging relationship. I miss her. She is not much available and doesn't live near. I haven't seen her in a year and a half. I know she is a hurting person. We both have had childhood traumas but I have really tried to hang in there. She is challenged in her own present life as I am in mine. The real shame is we have much in common and could be supportive with one another but instead there is all this anger. I guess Moms are safer targets for deep feelings. We are unlikely to abandon. I don't think they realize how much we need them now that we are older. Just added pain but indeed they might not have much left in their tanks to be the supportive, loving, kind and present daughters that I would want them to be. Suffering too!