I have D.I.D, PTSD, Depression, Anxiety, Psychosis NOS.

My stance on this is be glad that you don't have D.I.D where some of your identities actually come from people you meet, seen, heard, via media family, friends etc. The echoes that make you SEEM to those who don't understand like your obsessed with those persons. Yes, it doesn't have a whole lot to do with those person per se, but then again it does. Some I'm still a fan some I stay away from. I'm specifically talking about famous folks. Some I have a new appreciation for some, because who ever(my brain) chose some of them to protect something I couldn't handle...I kind of have made myself a fan with some of those people.

To the poster- just try to discuss what you missed about him/her in therapy. Try to find those qualities in yourself. What impact they made on you and live through them that way. I think once you do that you begin to adapt those qualities and use them then the thought of that person will go away. I know sometimes self love is the issue and people place folk up on this pedestal. Instead of find your issues people become a distraction from what the real issue is sometimes subconsciously. I know from experience, because I thought the same thing about myself obsessions, until I learned and accepted D.I.D, so now I use this in our life. I try to listen to my parts what I've learned from them like soul searching my memories of them and how they helped me now with confidence, assertiveness collective self love as a part of my system etc.