I am sorry you have to face these struggles.in instance #1 i have to say no. it was an uncomfortable situation in which you felt and enormous amount of pressure to do something you didnt want to do, you did make a choice and she didnt do anything in the end. while it isnt the best to take advantage of someone in a romantic situation in this way, assault is still a strong word in this situation. #2 and #3 are both assaults. you dont describe any type of sexual situations taking place, no huggy, kissy, datey romance going on like in situation 1 to imply that intimate touching was on the table and she just jumped in and took what she wanted in a sexual way without your consent. anybody touches you in any way without your consent it is considered assault.

i understand what you are going through. i have often found myself in tears in sexual situations in the past from the very beginning. just in a frozen state as people have touched me until i break into tears. i often wondered what was wrong with me. the other stuff too from the time i was six as well. now working on my ptsd with dissociation, putting together all the fragmented pieces, and talking with my sister, god rest her soul, it turns out i was sexually abused by my brother when i was young. it all makes sense now. this is something to really be honest with t about.