um, I feel the need to weigh in here too. It's not about enjoying the good times and ignorring the bad. He should be present during it all. I'm wondering if it is a fear of rejection is behind your need to cling to or settle in this relationship. Ask yourself and define what you think a good relationship looks like. What if a friend was in a similar one? Would you step in on her behalf? If your relationship doesn't meet your definition of what one ought to be, if you would consider a friend's similar relationship unhealthy then I need not point out the choice you need to make. Be strong and look out for yourself.