Hi, I found out by looking for a pair of swimming trucks for a friend`s son. Sorry, maybe I didnt make myself clear.. I am not prepared to stop him as this is something that cannot be stopped and he clearly likes doing. All his life from his family he was told that he was a failure etc etc;, I cannot do that to him, he need`s to be encourage to be open and pointed in the right direction that makes him happy... Everyone to their own. I, personally do not want to have sex with a man dressed in womans underwear.... I have found the name for this on the internet and it`s called Transvestic Fetishism, they just wear a certain amount of opposite sex`s clothing for sexual arousal. But I dont know how I am feeling and worried as to were it might be leading meaning our marriage.... We need to talk to come to some compromise I think. We have three young children and a lovely home.