Hi longboarder. I find it is difficult to know which way to go. Of the two women you mention, I like the idea of the safer Crissy than the fiery Annette. Of course it is totally your decision and need to evaluate how you feel. To me over 50 is more a time of relationships. It may be you are more a caregiver or just a pal to Crissy than you want to be. But sometimes being needed can be more important than being wanted. That is a highly personal decision.

Have you ever discussed with Crissy about if she has any thoughts of being closer to someone or what she sees in her future? She may not be the flame of your life, but she sounds like a good buddy for someone over 50 with less drive to express.

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