no kiya you dont ask for too much. one time I was upset when a treatment provider would not accept calls from my alters. i took the time to ask her why. she told me that with a system like mine where there were violent alters comes a legality of what treatment providers can and cant do. they have to set firm boundaries so that alter who may be a danger to their self and others can not harm the therapist or others.

one of the examples my therapist used is lets say a violent alter called and made threats of harm to their self or others including the therapist. the therapist is a mandated reporter. that means if someone called her after hours and threatened suicide, self injury or made other threats the therapist had no choice but to call the police. she would rather work with me one on one during therapy than to have to call the police after hours.

Another example my treatment provider used was that being on the phone dealing with a crisis is like being online with someone who is making threats of harming oneself or others. you cant see them so theres no way to know what is actually going on and whether they have actually already harmed their self or others. and in the event of a major crisis theres no way that a treatment provider can hop out of bed, get dressed and meet the client somewhere neutral and private to work on the threat of harm to oneself or others. that person can just drop the phone, walk away from the phone, hang up and do what ever anyway. her point when dealing with a crisis by phone theres no way of knowing which way positive or negative that phone call is going to go.

not sure if Im remembering right but if you are the one with the violent alter that bites that may be why she is setting such strict boundaries. maybe she is afraid that if this alter doesnt like how the phone call is going they will act out by biting you or others that may be around at the moment.

maybe you and your treatment provider can talk about boundaries and what that treatment provider considers a crisis. maybe you and her definition of a crisis are different. you can also talk about the what if you call with a crisis whats going to happen. this way maybe you will be more comfortable with how and why your treatment provider is setting such strict boundaries as not accepting phone calls from your alters, only from you when you are able to be the one in control.