Hi Grace: I think you handles things with your friend just perfectly. Really! It seems that you have done a lot of boundary work, and that you have really progressed a lot from the person that your friend once knew. I never wanted/want to admit this, but for every caretaker, (which I've always been as well), there is a 'taker', but we are the ones that are responsible for maintaining our own healthy boundaries with others, and you are doing that! YAY for you!! I don't think you owe her any further explanationl. Believe me, you are not going to be able to 'teach' her anything by doing so, and it's not your responsibility to do so. Following the course that you are on is the best way to teach anyone, i.e., by your example. She WILL eventually stop calling. I know this is a tough situ. - hang in there, OK? You're doing great! Best regards.

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