Pardon me but I am trying to figure out just what your post is about. Are you trying to figure out why you don't have a relationship with this woman? Are you telling us you want a relationship with this woman? Or, are you pointing out your justification for wanting this woman in your life for none other than to be a confidant?

If it is either of the first two I think having other women in your life is a big problem, especially that you turn to one as a confidant.

If it is the latter I'm just not sure where you are going with that. You make a great case why your relationship should be limited to an extra strong friendship.

Whichever way this goes I am thinking that you need to be honest with both she and yourself.