I have a leopard. It's a photo I took at the National Zoo, in DC.

My username, gosh I've had this since 2007. Was an active member in another mh related forum. Was a 'mommy3boys.' I was, at the time, addressing the confusion and struggles that I had in my marriage. Codep came up, and as I was trying so very hard to get a handle on boundaries and communication skills and researching mental health and conversing in the forum, reading and contributing and asking many questions. I realized something. For one, felt their coolness towards me at first, with the amount of family of origin chatter, might have been related. So I thought on it. Does motherhood truly define Me? Or is it a part of me, not the whole of me? Then, what exactly was I doing? Taking the focus off my then husband's behavior and looking at my reactions. If in a stage of recovery? What's happening? Healing. Am I to work on myself,(?) For someone? Or am I worth it, and doing it for myself.
I don't recall why I went with the lower case h, but I did. Thought 4, fit, at the time 3 sons and a husband, was better to express for, anyways.
That is how I came to use, healingme4me.