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Originally Posted by Tauren
Can I offer an outsider's perspective? My BFF has this disorder, and she thinks she's empathizing too much when in actuality she is not good at reading other people's emotions at all. She takes what she is feeling and projects it onto them. It causes her to think people are putting her down when they're not talking about her at all, and it causes a lot of weird little misunderstandings. Like one time she told me I had to stand up to someone and tell them not to judge me, and I was like, "Huh? Judge me? Why would they judge me? Why would I care if they did?" Took me a while to understand that she was the one who felt judged.
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Hit the nail on the head. There's so much projection going on its not even funny. When not triggered, the empathy varies per person. I had to learn how to read others- and I have a lot of difficulty doing it. And before even trying, I have to purposefully ignore my gut. And its hard, BC where do you draw the line? What if your gut is rightly telling you that you're being taken advantage of vs wrongly jumping to conclusions about someone? It's a mess, and frankly no amount of DBT or CBT has helped me in this regard.
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