Hi Shane, I'm sorry that this happened to you. That is a brutal way to find out that a girlfriend wants to break up. Breakup by text message is bad enough, but that's a particular hurtful text message that she sent.

One of the bad things to me about a relationship that ends is that we usually don't get a chance to find out exactly why.

The ball is kind of in her court now, and I would leave it there. She may choose to reach out to you or she may not.

You now have to start to repair the hurt that you've suffered. Talking to people about it can be helpful. These forums are a good place to do that. You will get a lot of different ideas and opinions, and you probably won't agree with all of them, but that usually comes with getting opinions from a diverse group of people.

As far as the crying, it makes total sense to me. You were forming an attachment to her and probably to her children as well, and it has been ended abruptly and in an unkind way.

The crying can be cleansing. You've had a loss, and sometimes crying helps you to recover faster than you would have otherwise. Your body knows what it's doing, so please don't feel like you shouldn't cry.

Hugs.